By Steve Quackenbush
Statistics show that 70% of American males attending a Christian church on a Sunday morning have looked at pornography within the past month.
4 keys to pulverizing pornography in your life:
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn
Your network – your five key people – will determine the way you think, the way you act, and the way you approach your life goals.
Flatly put, people are constantly speaking into your life, but the ones you hear the most, happen to be the ones who will impact you the most. WOW!! Imagine. We have the ability to shape or be shaped depending on our entourage. If we were to look at our present circle what would we see? Would we see people more like us or would we see people that we want to be like, or…?
As Christians this means surrounding ourselves with the voice of Christ.
2. GUARD YOUR HEART
Jeremiah 17:9: “The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?”
Mark 7:21-23: “From within, out of men’s hearts, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality… All these evils come from inside and make a man unclean.”
These verses come as a blow to those who struggle because they mute the inner cry of the spirit desiring to overcome. Struggling to overcome attraction to pornography produces an intense agonizing craving for a miracle move of God to erase all that one was and the struggle along with it. The sad news is…there is no miracle cure or remedy for the darkness of man’s heart. The moment we fell from purity in the Garden of Eden we became full of many forms of evil varying in their boastfulness.
That being said, God is One who has mercy, gives hope and grace. Understand that the plan of God “from the foundations of the world” (Ephesians 1:3-10) was to send Jesus to erase sin that stains every person’s heart. Some have asked:
“Well if God is omniscient, knowing everything,
then why did He create us if
He knew we would sin?”
This was the greatest master plan that could have ever existed. God knew man would fall and still created them so that He could give the greatest demonstration of love…one dying for another. When we sinned at the beginning of the world we became spiritually dead, exiled from eternity with the Father. The only way for the spiritually dead to come back to life, and therefore assuming eternity with the Father, was for that which is Spiritually alive to give life to the dead. This was fulfilled in Jesus on the cross.
Proverbs 4:23: “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life”
What lies in the heart is the unhideable bearer of who we become. This can be seen as an area of advantage for any believer in the sense that if we can figure out how to guard and harness the desires of the heart we can train ourselves to become who we desire to be. (Romans 5:3-8)
3. PROTECT YOUR MIND AND 4. DEVELOP YOUR EYES
Few things are more discouraging than repeatedly trying to escape an addiction that seems to know your every move and thought. Our mind is like a computer, wired to remember/recall information suctioned via our senses. So what we allow to pass in front of our eyes will replay in our minds.
So if it’s true that my mind will retain these images to replay them later how do I escape advertisements, or fashion trends, or the beach? The answer is simple if consistent. Be ruthless and control your mind and decisions! Your brain may be like a computer, but a computer still needs an operator. The more you allow your brain to absorb tantalizing images, the more you will think of these things later on. If you notice something that would normally excite you, turn your head, look up in the sky. Call out to Jesus/pray. Find something to purposely distract you.
The key is intentionally filling your mind with other things. Seems hard to believe, but it’s just that simple! You’ve given your mind a taste of chocolate, which it never knew before, now that’s all it craves. Refuse to take in the chocolate when you’re hungry, instead feed yourself something healthy. Eventually you will forget the taste and no longer crave chocolate but other foods.
“What goes in through your eyes and ears goes up to your brain.
What goes up to your brain goes down to your heart.
What goes down to your heart is who you become.”
Have you built a fortress around your heart?